And they grow
9 years ago
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Character flaw...
Today an old friend stopped by. I haven't spoken to her in a while, and it was weird that she still sought me out for advice. I have realized that it is a fault of mine that I feel the need to solve others problems. I know it doesn't sound that bad, but I try to solve so many problems for so many people that I spread my self thin, and I get involved in things I have no place being. I do not think it is always a bad thing. I think it is what gives me the heart and the strength to take on children with special needs. I also would wager that there are many other foster parents who would feel that they might also have the same character flaw. I felt better tonight when I could echo thoughts back to her and help her see her own ideas, but not feel the need to run and fix it. I think it will be good for her to solve it for herself and I know that it will be good for me to keep myself concentrated.
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I too share your flaw. It's my desire to fix a person that drives my flaw. I realized about a year ago though that it never really matters what my opinion or advice is, they will always do it however they planned to from the get-go. So I sat down and had a long inner monologue with myself and basically decided for all of those people that "use" me as a shoulder to rest their burdens on, and do not do the same in turn for me, I didn't want them to play a role in my life anymore. I know it sounds so harsh, but honestly it made the biggest difference in my life. I am so much happier not having to deal with their stress!
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